Check On Your Happy Friends Too
Inspired by Sydnee Alger
Do you know your friend? You know, the one who is always smiling? Have you ever wondered how they keep that smile plastered on their face ALL THE TIME? When the going gets rough, they seem to keep going. They are strong and compassionate and perfect and happy. The list goes on. They’re often the ones taking care of other people. You can find them laughing and making life a little less boring and a lot more enjoyable. Do you find yourself jealous of their perfect life? They seem to have it all, and if I had it all, I’d probably be pretty freakin’ happy too. Do you wonder what it would be like to walk a day in their shoes? Have you ever wished you could be just like them? Have you asked them how they were doing lately? No… not just that question you ask in passing, not really expecting or even wanting an answer. I’m talking about taking the time to look them in the eyes with genuine care in order to check on their wellbeing?
It’s very easy for us to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life. We are dealing with stuff of our own, and honestly, we’re all just trying to survive. It is easy to look over our happy friends because they are seemingly happy! Most of us are really good at checking up on our friends who are experiencing rough times and/or sadness. If we see a friend struggling, we reach out to them. But I’m telling you now, you need to check on your happy friends.
Why? If they are so happy and things are going well for them, why would do I need to have such a conversation with them? Because your happy friends are often those who are the greatest pretenders. I know from personal experience. For a long time, my happiness on the outside was all an act. It’s an act that is doable for a while, but it gets harder and harder as time goes on. We are experts at hiding our emotions. We act that way for a lot of different reasons. Pride, shame, fear to name a few. It’s far easier to act happy than to face the reality of the struggles we are going through. So please, I’m pleading with you-check on your happy friends too. Sit down with them and ask them how life is going for them, then listen. Ask questions. Connect. Be real. Allow them to be real. Anything. Just check on your happy friends too.
“I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it’s like to feel absolutely worthless and they don’t want anyone else to feel like that.” Robin Williams